It’s not about finding who I am but who I want to be.

Recently, I saw a TikTok video of an Asian woman getting her 23andMe results. In a mere 15 seconds, she opens the envelope, looks at it and shows the audience what it says. The results are that she is Chinese and of Southeast Asian descent. The video ends with her…


Around mid-November, I read an article about how a writer was able to make $4K a month writing on Medium. I was astonished. I had been writing for most of my life and barely made a fraction of that in months.

Of course, the article was well-written, straight to the…


9. Director by 30 (and make 6 figures)

Everyone talks about how we need to keep dreaming, set goals, aim high and work hard. Because if you work hard enough, any dream is possible.

Bleh…I don’t think that provides the full picture. Don’t get me wrong, I love to dream, not only when I’m sleeping. …


Did tampons ruin my Olympic swimmer dream?

When I was on maternity with my first child, the monotony of routine allowed me to rediscover my passion for writing. As a kid, I wrote stories upon stories, from true, untrue, to never been told. …


Anything I accomplished, my sister had already done it…

There are three of us: my eldest sister, my middle sister and me. The relationship I have with my eldest sister is like a snow globe; it stays dormant for most of the year but gets shaken up during the holidays.

My childhood memories of her are patchy, most of…


Not just the germs…

I got engaged in a botanical garden in Egypt. I was waiting in a gazebo while he used the bathroom. When he came back, he got down on one knee and did his thing. The ring wasn’t actually a ring; it was a mould of what it would look like.


I stopped using sex as a weapon.

My parents never talked about sex

They barely showed physical affection towards each other; and when they did, my dad was always the one who initiated it. It was as though they had sex 3 times to have me and my sisters and that was it.

My mom preached about not “giving it up” until marriage…


I want to preserve the language for my kids.

I’m a Chinese-Canadian mom (you can read more about my journey of accepting my culture here).

As much as I’ve been open to learning and adopting the Chinese way of doing things, it’s been hard balancing what I think is important to preserve in my family versus “I’ll just do…


My skin feels so good now

I turned 35 earlier this year. It was a simple celebration with my husband, our kids and a very decadent chocolate cake from Whole Foods. It was perfect.

As I made my wish and blew out the single, pink candle, I realized my life had changed quite a bit in…


His 40 plus years as a public sector employee.

Talking to my dad hasn’t been easy.

For a long time, I didn’t know what to talk to him about because it seemed like we couldn’t talk about anything. However, I wanted to have a better relationship with him because if I know him better, I can know myself better. …

Katharine Chan, MSc, BSc, PMP

Sum (心, ♡) on Sleeve | Author. Speaker. Wife. Mom of 2 | Embrace Culture. Love Yourself. Improve Relationships | sumonsleeve.com/books

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